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NEWCOMER OF THE YEAR 2005 - JASON BARTFELD
Seven (and a bit)
years ago I, by chance, met a newly engaged couple at a party.
She was, as I remember, resplendent in a Lacrouix outfit. He was
in Armani. They radiated warmth and happiness and exuded
metropolitan cool. We bonded instantly and I gained, in Sallie
Anne, the worlds most fervent and enthusiastic (but hopelessly
inept!) matchmaker and, in Duane, an equally committed
claret/Ferrari/cigar/adrenalin enthusiast (and a fellow expat
Yank to help indulge my penchant for exposing Brits to our
better traditions – Thanksgiving, Super Bowl, the Yankees etc.).
Two weeks later I was
invited to their wedding, and four weeks later I not only
attended it but accidentally ended up gate-crashing Duane and
Sallie Anne’s shared family wedding breakfast gathering the next
day (and was, as only they could do, made to feel not only
welcome but as if I had been expected all along!).
All was not just
well, but marvellous, with my new but very close friends. We had
(not with standing Sallie Anne’s very poor taste in potential
life partners for me) such mutually shared lifestyles and
interests. Until the phone call:
“Jason, it’s Duane,
Sallie and I are going for a polo lesson this weekend, why don’t
you come along?”
“(long pause) Thanks
for the thought, I think. But have you been drinking? I have
never in my life ridden a horse. Quite frankly they scare me.
I’m born and bred a city boy. And I can’t afford to play polo!”
“No you fool. A
lesson only costs 40 pounds. If you get better you just rent a
horse to play. We’re just having fun and you should give it a
go. It’s not like we are going to dedicate our whole lives to
this or spend any serious money on it.”
Now
I wish that I had taken up that invitation. Instead I spent the next 5
years as Duane and Sallie Anne’s ‘
London
friend’. I watched as they moved from
London
to a small house in the country. I watched, bemused,
as they bought adjoining land and built stables and hired their first
groom. I masked my fear when introduced to their new horses. I showed
support from the side of a field as they played their first chukkas, and
talked afterwards of the occasional ball they had hit but never of the
many balls that they had ridden straight over. To horses were added
Terence (my godson) and a dog called Ziggy Stardust. Terence I
understood and bonded with. Horses, dogs, polo and the country life
still perplexed me. And then came the new bigger house. And more horses.
And land. And stables. And more groom’s and
even their very own polo
pro giving polo lessons on their top field. Further I could not deny the
reality that my friends could not only now hit the ball, but were
helping others to learn to do the same. And I admit that I became
curious, but suppressed that feeling behind the absolute knowledge that
polo was not something I could ever do. To be fair, each year Duane
repeated his suggestion that I give it a try.
Sussex
polo was born. In early 2003 Duane and Sallie sold their
respective red automotive toys to kick start the new club fund.
Duane came to me and (pretty much in the same breath) (a)
requested (i.e. pleaded) to be insured to drive my red car, (b)
told me that he
and Sallie had decided to give me some polo lessons for my birthday, (c)
told me that they started in 4 weeks time (and I could borrow his boots)
and (d) informed me that I had no choice in the matter, I might be an
unfit, overweight, urban boy who had a pathological fear of horses but
that I WAS GOING TO GIVE POLO A
TRY
WHETHER I LIKED IT OR NOT.
I cannot thank Duane enough
for that, for it has changed my life. And I cannot thank Sallie Anne
enough for creating from nothing (through stress, sleeplessness, vision
and bloody-minded determination, believe me) the sort of polo club where
a through and through city boy, hopelessly unprepared both culturally
and (to be honest) physically, who is irrationally, but psychotically,
scared of horses can be wholly comfortable and confident that his first
steps into the polo world will be taken in the environment of warmth,
friendship and encouragement that exudes from the management, the pros,
the staff and the members of the club.
My
first full playing season has been an adventure and has been blessed
(but by no means made) by collecting a few winners’ trophies. I’m
grounded enough to realise that the trophies that I won on the field
have more to do with the people who I was lucky enough to be playing
with (and let’s not forget luck, as well as an unfortunate and badly
timed foul by my great friend Mr kwan Lo) than any contribution I myself
made to the team. A big thank you to
David Morley
for (a) putting up with me and (b) teaching me the
tactical side of the game rather than shouting at me!
But
the trophy that means most to me is the one that was decided by the
members of the club.. Thank you all for your votes (and I forgive those
whose votes were directed elsewhere – there were so many who deserved
recognition) that ended in me being honoured with the Newcomer of the
Year trophy. Thank you to the professionals who taught me the game and
believed in me. Thank you to Duane and Memo who found me my beautiful
and perfect horses and quietly let me learn to love them. Thank you to
my fabulous groom Michelle Uwins for looking after my beloved babies so
brilliantly and for re-schooling them repeatedly to compensate for my
failings as a horseman. But most of all thank you to all the members of
the club for your encouragement, your advice, your tolerance (I know I
can be obsessively competitive on the field sometimes), your patience
(I’ll get better at the rules, I promise), your polite laughter when I
commentate badly (or eccentrically), and for the warmth and the
friendship that you’ve always demonstrated to me and to all the
newcomers to the club and to polo. Last but not least, my thanks to
Michael and Sophie Hanna for generously sponsoring the exquisite trophy.
I
can’t wait for the next season to start!
Jason Bartfeld
Nov
2005
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